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By Abdulkadir Rafiat Forgiveness is the act of compassionately releasing the desire to punish someone or yourself for an offense. It’s a state of grace, nothing you can force or pretend. There are no short cuts. Mistakenly, some people , wanting to be “ spiritual ,” have prematurely tried to forgive after someone emotionally knifes them in the gut. First, you must feel  anger  before you can begin to forgive. I gradually guide patients to the large-heartedness of forgiving injuries either caused by others or self-inflicted. Revenge is the desire to get even when someone does you wrong. It’s natural to feel angry, to say “I’m not going to let that **** get away with this,” whatever “this” is. However, revenge reduces you to your worst self, puts you on the same level with those spiteful people we claim to abhor. Additionally, studies have shown that revenge increases  stress  and impairs  health  and immunity. Sure, if someone hits you with a stick, yo...

By Abdulkadir Rafiat The National Association of Nigerian Students on Saturday urged the leadership of the Academic Staff Union of Universities to go back to negotiations with the Federal Government. NANS was reacting to a statement reportedly issued by the ASUU where it threatened not to honour any further invitation for a meeting with the Federal Government. “There is a need for ASUU to continue its negotiations with the Federal Government to find a common ground to resolve issues that led to the union’s ongoing strike,’’ NANS National Public Relations Officer, Mr Bestman Okereafor, said. Okereafo, who made this known in a statement issued to the News Agency of Nigeria in Enugu, said: “We consider this decision as devilish and not in the best interest of Nigerian students. “We wonder how the lingering disputes will be resolved if meetings are boycotted. “We are calling on the leadership of ASUU to reverse its decision and consider returning to the negotiation tab...

By Abdulkadir Rafiat L earning to deal with disappointment is part of a fulfilling life. Disappointment is natural and normal, and everyone will experience it to some extent in their life because our expectations often don’t align with what actually happens. Sometimes life deals us a difficult hand, and events and trials arise that we have no control over. In other cases it is our own actions themselves that cause our trials. Regardless of the nature of our trials, difficulties and disappointments are a part of life’s journey and how we deal with them will largely determine the quality of our life.  It is very possible that our disappointment is due to the fact that we have an internal “rule” that is disempowering. An internal rule is a set of circumstances that must be present in order for us to feel happy or successful. For example, if we have a rule that says we need to be perfect, it is likely that we will spend a large amount of time feeling sad, disappointed and frus...

By Abdulkadir Rafiat She shared these hot new photos as she stepped out today writing; " For this gift of Life O’Lord I say Thank you ; Forgive us for when we don't thank you enough, for who you are, for all that you do, for all that you've given. Help us to set our eyes and our hearts on you afresh. Renew our spirits, fill us with your peace and joy. We love you and we need you, this day and every day. We give you praise and thanks, for You alone are worthy! Thank you Lord for the littlest things, Thank you for Good health, Whilst I take the Gift of sleeping & waking up for granted, this past few days has been an eye opener. Whilst we Outchea chasing after Vanity, Many are constantly asking God for just Good health. Thank you Lord for the Gift of Life in Good health �� Dear God; Thank you, I AM GRATEFUL �� . Now back to Drinking water & Minding my Business ���"

By Abdulkadir Rafiat Nollywood actress, Wumi Toriola, has shed more light on the cause of her dispute with her senior colleague, Toyin Abraham. In an interview with BBC Yoruba, the actress said their dispute stemmed from the fact that she is friends with Seyi Edun, the new lover of Adeniyi Johnson, who is Toyin’s ex. When asked whether her friendship with Seyi has anything to do with their current dispute, she said:  “Seyi is my friend and I can’t lie about that.  "At the height of the controversy surrounding the split between Toyin Abraham and Adeniyi Johnson, Seyi called me that she was tired of all the drama and she was ready to leave Adeniyi. "I then called Toyin to inform her about Seyi’s decision to leave Adeniyi. I also asked Toyin whether she was still interested in reconciling with Adeniyi, so that Seyi could move on. "However, Toyin reign curses on me. As a Yoruba girl, I let the issue slide without informing anyone, but I feel it’s high time I ...

By Abdulkadir Rafiat Banky W gave his friend and co-actor, Ibrahim Suleiman, marital advice in a recent interview. Banky, who has been married to actress Adesua Etomi for a year, and Ibrahim Suleiman, who got married to Adesua's best friend and co-actor Linda Ejiofor last month, were guests on TVC's Entertainment Splash. When Banky was asked to give Ibrahim marital advice, he told him: Your wife is always right. Wives also inherit whatever they want - perfumes, deodorants, t-shirts, drivers, human beings... They just come for it and it's theirs. Banky also spoke about how he felt while filming with Ibrahim and his wife Adesua in a recent movie titled Up North, where Ibrahim's character was the love interest of Adesua's character.

By Abdulkadir Rafiat Two days before my 38th birthday on September 17th, I welcomed my first child, my son, Jayce. I look at him and I wonder why I waited so long to have a child. I’ve never known love like this. I literally have tears in my eyes every time I look at him. I can’t believe he came out of me. He is by far my greatest blessing and I’m looking forward to navigating him through life! Now to the reason why you are reading this. I argued with myself for a long time whether to put this out or not…and finally decided it was a story I wanted to share. I've always been open about my life but I'm sharing details about my personal life mostly because of the girls who look up to me. The girls I have mentored, mentoring right now and plan to mentor in the future. I’m very particular about our young girls and I have personally tried over the years to be an example in some way; tried to teach these girls how to fight for their dreams, how to live right and do right ...

By Abdulkadir Rafiat Words currently on the lips of music pundits is that Nigerian pop music singer, Davido, may be jinxed as he has been reportedly declared wanted in Gambia for allegedly assaulting one Kenny Egbuke, a celebrity photographer who came to cover his recent music concert in Gambia. The singer who currently risks prison sentence for recently threatening the life of celebrity blogger, Ayodeji Jaguda because the blogger accused him of buying YouTube views for his latest song, ‘Wonder Woman’, reportedly has a case of assault reported against him at the Kololi Police station in Gambia. According to a report, the singer violently broke the head, tore the lips of Egbuke who is said to be one of Gamiba’s most notable celebrity photographers. “A young female fan had approached Davido for a selfie while he was eating. The lady was said to have taken a few pictures of him before going close to him and this, it was gathered, did not go down well with Davido, who sent her ...

By Abdulkadir Rafiat Since news broke that alternative music singer, Adekunle Gold, and velvety voiced musician, Simi, may be in a romantic relationship, the general public has been patiently waiting for a confirmation or a denial. However, ‘Jamb Question’ crooner, Simi, has finally come out to profess love for the ‘Nurse Alabere’ singer, Adekunle Gold. While expressing immense gratitude to Adekunle Gold for supporting her at her just concluded annual music concert tagged ‘Simi Live in Concert’, which held penultimate Sunday at the Hard Rock Café, Oniru, Lagos, she confirmed that she is in love with him.  “God knew what He was doing when our paths crossed. Your support is immense; your love is overwhelming in the best way. Thank you champ, I love you Adekunle Gold”, she said. Recall that since the news of their love tryst went viral, both singers have tried everything possible to avoid speaking on the matter.       We might be forced to suspect th...

By Abdulkadir Rafiat      The much-awaited Orezi Experience Concert finally went down at Ozoro Stadium last Sunday and from what was witnessed at the event, it attracted more than 10,000 people from within and outside the state. It was one show that many people would not forget in a hurry.     From the rich list of artistes to the choice of venue and arrangement, the concert, in its first edition, gave the excited crowd more than they had bargained for. The crowd responded and the artistes were in their best elements, dishing out songs that were chorused by the crowd.     For more than six weeks, talks about Orezi bringing his first show to his hometown shaped discussions in every sense of it. Apart from the glitz and glamour that ushered in the people, there was indeed more to see and talk about in one event that had all the trappings of a world-class concert.       Though the event started a little behind s...

By Abdulkadir Rafiat           Popular singer and photographer, TY Bello, would eternally be grateful to God. After nine years of marriage, she was later blessed with a set of twins. Although some years have passed, the singer said  in a recent chat that she was still not used to being addressed as ‘Iya Ibeji,’ a name given to mothers of twins in Yorubaland.       She said, “The secret of my good looks is the fact that I just keep living life and enjoying it. I also enjoy the work that I do.” The singer, who recently trended on the Nigerian digital space courtesy of her collaboration with gospel singer, Tope Alabi, on the song,  Logan Ti Ode, added t hat she was shocked by the feedback she got from the spontaneous worship song.        She further revealed how the song was composed. “The collaboration between Tope Alabi and me was purely inspired by God and our session was beautiful. We hardly had convers...

By Abdulkadir Rafiat        Comedienne and presenter, Helen Paul, just added a feather to her cap in the entertainment industry. Popular for stand-up comedy with her comic and tender voice, Helen Paul recently released a song where she expressed all the struggles she had passed through to get to this stage of her life. she noted that she was a recording artiste and not a performing artiste. Helen Paul emphasised that she would only sing to express herself. “What actually inspired the song was the moment I remembered a period in my life when someone told me I could never get to their level. While growing up, there was this particular woman who used to drive me away from her house; she used to tell her son not to talk to me because of my background. “Suddenly, she called me from the US and apologised, saying she was sorry. She asked if I was the popular Helen Paul. She was shocked; she congratulated me and told me to come and greet her anytime she is ...

By Abdulkadir Rafiat Multiple award-winning actress In an exclusive interview with the magazine, the actress talks about her clothing line, what motivated her to start, what has made her stay relevant and consistent for more than 10 years, her view on the Nollywood industry and many more. The magazine also features their 10 most influential women of 2018, which includes  Mo Abudu, Tiwa Savage, Uche Pedro, Kemi Adetiba, Genevieve Nnaji, Omotola Jalade-Ekeinde, Bobrisky, Biola Alabi, Cee-C  and  Ngozi Okonjo Iweala .

By Abdulkadir Rafiat The wife of music star, 2Face Idibia, Mrs Annie Idibia has empowered women in Ikorodu community with poverty alleviation materials and start-up capital to mark her 34th birthday. Following the celebration of her new age, Annie, through her NGO, AI Care Foundation, joined the community women in a cook-out session and listened to their stories of hope and aspiration. Speaking at the event, Annie explained, “It is humbling to see the earnestness of so many to lift themselves from poverty. It truly is an honour and a privilege to have the opportunity to support your journeys. “Thank you for opening your hearts to AI Care. “In supporting us, I want you to know that you are changing lives one woman, one young person, one community, at a time. Thank you.” The Nollywood actress was accompanied by her celebrity friends, Toyin Abraham, Lilian Esoro and Osas Ighodaro Ajibade to mark the occasion at the Abule Eleru event. The highlight of the event was a dona...

By Abdulkadir Rafiat Popular Nigerian disc jockey DJ Cuppy shares a new photo as she talked about minding her own business. She wrote: “I’m too busy working on my own grass to notice if yours is greener!�� #ToCuppyThisTune

By Abdulkadir Rafiat Few months after her publicised engagement to her lawyer boyfriend got dissolved, Toyin Abraham has found love again. Seven months ago, the Nollywood excitedly shared the news of her getting engaged to Ibadan based Olugbenga Olujimi, a legal practitioner. The engagement did not however last as the couple struggled with her being in the spotlight, something he didn’t particularly care for. No sooner did they settle into their statuses as “fiancee” and “fiance” did they call it quits and go their separate ways. Now, Toyin Abraham, who only yesterday was accused by her ex-husband Adeniyi Johnson of refusing to grant him a divorce, has found another lover who she’s said to be head-over-heels in love with and he is her fellow Nollywood actor, Kolawole Ajeyemi (known in the Yoruba movie sub-sector as “Awilo”).The two reportedly have known each other within the industry which they work for nearly a decade but only started dating a couple of months ago. It was ...

By Abdulkadir Rafiat Nigerian comedian, singer and actress Helen Paul shares her grass to grace story as she revealed that she once sold pure water at Moremi hall, Unilag. She wrote: "Na wa o Which work I no do I try modeling, I see say I no fine I try makeup artiste, I carry purse so tey hand pain me I sell pure water for #moremihall that time for school…In search of success, poverty use me play free kick. Now bankers de call me, how can we help you? Eh… help who? Everybody wan be my friend � But no make friend o… because all those people go leave you if you pretend say things change small. But in all keep trying Keep pushing… Don’t forget where you are coming from and where you are going. Focus o… NO ENTER UNNECESSARY COMPETITION!"

By Abdulkadir Rafiat Tonto Dikeh who few days revealed that her son will never call anyone who isn’t a family uncle and aunty, has further disclosed what she will do to her son if he comes home with earrings. According to Tonto Dikeh, his son will also get the slap even at 18 if he comes home with earrings. Her insta-story post reads; Even at 18 years old my son comes home with earrings on his ears as part of a trend or fashion or for whatever purpose his little brain deceived him to do it, BRUV IM SLAPPING THE SHIT OUTTA HIM IN MORTAL COMBAT STYLE… #WHO THE HELL WANNA PLAY WITH SON?

By Abdulkadir Rafiat The 13th edition of The Experience, an annual gospel musical concert held in the popular Tafawa Balewa Square (TBS) Lagos, Nigeria will be going down today Friday 7th December 2018. Some of the guest appearances include Donnie Mcclurkin, Travis Greene, Don Moen, Tim Godfrey, Timi Dakolo and a host of other talented artistes. The event is hosted by House On The Rock Church. From the official Instagram page of ”The Experience” read their post…. The Experience has become one of the major highlights on the calendar and is a keenly anticipated Concert with destiny in December for many … and for #TE13. The Artistes are all here. All that’s left is you. Don’t miss this! #JesusOurPeace. 7pm is start time!”

By Abdulkadir Rafiat A day after celebrating his 25th birthday, Nigerian singer, Reekedo Banks has announced his exit from Mavin Records onto bigger opportunities. Reekedo Banks announced the departure on Instagram today after 5 years of working with Mavin Records under the tutelage of Don Jazzy. He was full of praise for Don Jazzy for the sacrifices he made towards the growth of his career. “Don jazzy took me in and treated me like his own son. I’ll be eternally grateful to him for sacrifices he made towards the growth of my career. “His selflessness and efforts towards me and the entire Mavin crew is one that is admirable and worthy of emulation. A true KING with a large heart, full of kindness and ready to accommodate even more people”. His Instagram post reads: “Today I write in tears, not from a place of pain, but of joy and gratitude. A place of bliss and satisfaction because I am more than contented with how far this opportunity has brought me. The last five ye...

By Abdulkadir Rafiat Controversial On-Air-Personality Daddy Freeze has said that Starboy record owner Wizkid does not sing better than DMW boss Davido. He made this known in the comment section of a post made by Cool FM, Lagos. Freeze said the reason he made this verdict was because Wizkid likes to play safe on songs even though he’s a gifted singer, while Davido sings professionally and even stretches his voice to add juice to his songs. He said, “I don’t think Wizkid sings better than Davido. “Wizkid has one of the few voices that you can actually regard as gifted. His texture is great. But when it comes to vocal ability, professionally, I’ll give it to Davido.”

By Abdulkadir Rafiat At the recently concluded  Global Citizen Festival  in South Africa, Nigeria’s very own Wizkid gave a spectacular performance which has got people including Coldplay’s lead singer and seven-time Grammy Award winner, Chris Martin praises his performance. Perhaps, his highlight was when he did a live performance of his 2015 hit track Ojuelegba off his sophomore studio album “Ayo (Joy).” This performance had some people attest that this is the best rendition of Ojuelegba. Wizkid’s Ojuelegba never sounded so sweeter 😍😍🤗  pic.twitter.com/03I710nvkE — ᴏᴋᴀfᴏʀ ᴜᴄʜᴇɴɴᴀ ᴏʟᴜᴡᴀfᴇᴍɪ (@Uchekush_)  December 5, 2018 Coldplay’s lead singer and pianist, Chris Martin described watching Wizkid perform as “a dream come true”. He also mentioned that he cried as a fan. “Watching Wizkid perform is a dream come true, which made me cry.” – Chris Martin, Lead Singer and Pianist of Coldplay and a 7-time Grammy winner.  pic.twitter.com/U3UUYmOpPJ —...

By Abdulkadir Rafiat Nigerian popstar, David Adeleke, popularly known as Davido, has disclosed that the National Youth Service Corp, NYSC, has cancelled his one-year orientation exercise. Davido made this public in a comment on Instagram page, davidoofficial. He was reacting to a post made by Nigerian music promoter, Adesegun Adeosun, popularly known as Smade who just finished his three-week NYSC orientation program, and got a letter of recommendation. Davido wrote, “Naso dem cancel my own.” Davido is a graduate of Babcock University. He graduated in 2015 after studying music. He registered for NYSC in 2018 Batch ‘B’ stream II corps members who were sworn in on August 30.

By Abdulkadir Rafiat Davido’s attempt to diss a member of the defunct musical group PSquare Peter Okoye, now known as Mr P, has gone wrong. Earlier on Thursday, December 6, Mr P posted a photo on Instagram showing him attempting to open his car door, but, the “IF” crooner alleged it was just a picture pose. Davido, in the comment section, wrote:  “I can swear your not goin anywhere.” While fans agreed with the OBO, saying it was just a stunt for the gram, the singer kept quiet. However, about 30 minutes later, Mr P uploaded a photo, showing him shooting a commercial, meaning he was actually going out.