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By Abdulkadir Rafiat        Consequences of pride in a marriage could be irreversible. If someone tells you that he/she has a perfect marriage, just know right away that he/she is a great liar.Couples fight and fight badly for that matter, but it's the ability to revise ones stand, communicate with respect, and be honest with each other, that determines the survival of any marital relationship.         If you remove pride and arrogance in your marital relationship, the marriage is already 90% promising, stable, peaceful and can thus, stand the test of time. Invest in your marriage through giving, talking and compromising here and there. Your business as a stakeholder should be what to do to make your home peaceful and stable for you, your spouse, and your children's enjoyment.         Stop running to 3rd parties who equally have their own challenges they are probably hiding and managing. You may end up getting nothing pos...

By Abdulkadir Rafiat Hey Guys,          I make with guys but most of them end up telling me they are in a relationship or the other after I must have fallen in love with them and I do not want to make it seem like I want to snatch them from their girl.          If you love each other but he/she is not single, do you pray and wait for a chance that he/she breaks up and come to you? Or what would you do?  Use the comment section below 👇👇👇👇

By Abdulkadir Rafiat Dear ladies,             Learn how to express love to your partner.  some ladies think that the only way to express love to  a man is by having sex with him; that is why some ladies do not have anything to offer a man  except sex. When Men sometimes buy gift for their girlfriends then they will say’’ "I will pay you back this night by giving you a hot sex." . Its very funny. Sex is not a prove of love. Don't use sex to prove that you love a man. As a lady, you can prove that you love a man  in the following ways: 1. Surprise him with  gifts if you have the money. 2. Take him out for lunch and pay his bills. It is not bad at all. 3. Send him some love text messages occasionally. 4. Call him daily. 5. Occasionally you can cook a delicious meal for him, but not everyday like a housewife. 6. You can also help him financially when he is broke. 7. Take him out for shopping, you will not die. 8. Pra...

By Abdulkadir Rafiat  I am just curious as to what makes people consciously realise that they have fallen in love with a person  For me I dont really understand the concept of love, i can feel when I start have feelings for someone but I can snap out of it real easy  So i just wanna know whether I actually have ever fallen in "love" with a person or is it just that I can climb out of the well before I fall any deeper  I also have rooted this fact deep in my head that I might never find love. So whenever I feel for someone I just have to tell myself that they wont reciprocate the feeling ever.. maybe thats why i can snap out of it real easy  I am an average looking girl who has trust issues who has never had a serious  boyfriend because I never found anyone who loves me so well, worth my time & casual relationships is a thing I dont really consider well  Is it normal that I am like this?  And What makes you realize that you've fallen...

By Abdulkadir Rafiat Dearest ..., Sometimes, there are simply no words that can adequately express the depth of a person's feelings that are plagued by regret, guilt and sadness for a wrong done. This is my predicament now for hurting you so badly when you trusted me so. A thousand "I'm sorry" I'm willing to say but I know it can't undo what has been done and it won't ease the pain in your heart. Instead, let me write this to let you know that I regretted my actions and cheating on you is certainly an unforgivable mistake. I totally deserve all the anger and resentment from you for what I have put you through. However, it also pains me to see you suffering as a result of my misbehavior. Guilt burns in my heart thinking of all the hurt that you must have felt because of my recklessness. Each time that I think of you, I get angry with myself because I can imagine all the bitter tears you must have shed when you learned of my indiscretion. I'...

    By Abdulkadir Rafiat  It feels nice to be wanted and even better to be desired. Learn how to make him miss you  1.Don’t always be available for him.       Your boyfriend is not going to miss you if you’re always available. Find things that you can put into yourself. Create your own space and time away from him. While it is important to spend time together to win his heart, it is equally important to give some space so that he’ll realize how special you are and how much he really misses you. 2. Hang out with your friends.           After spending a few days away from him, he may be happy you’re having a good time but he will also become jealous. If he sees how much fun you’re having, he’s going to want to come along on your next adventure.  3. Highlight the fun arts of your life using social media.         If you want him to miss you, you can use social media as your advantage. Upda...

        By Abdulkadir Rafiat  Don’t expect to be treated like a ~~~~~~princess~~~~~~ or a queen. What does that even mean? Do you want someone to obsessively dote on you and serve you breakfast in bed, or do you just want to have, like, a good partner? Give as much as you take. Don’t expect someone to give you foot massages every day while you just sit back and get worshipped. Both parties need to feel wanted and cared for.        Expect to be told the truth. Why be with someone if you have to walk on eggshells with them? Be direct, be honest. If they’re being an asshole, tell them. If they’re being THE BEST BOYFRIEND EVER, tell them that too. (Just don’t tell Facebook.)  Call them out on their ridiculousness because it shows that you know them so well. Most times, people WANT to be called out on their BS. They’re just pushing, pushing, pushing, until you’re willing to push back. They like it when you do. It means they’r...

By Abdulkadir Rafiat        Although a large majority agree that it is not a wise decision to go through a partner’s phone, the idea of doing so can be hard to ignore.      Just in case you are battling with an urge to go through your partner’s phone, here are three reasons not to: 1. Breach Of Trust        Let’s face it. Irrespective of the reason pushing you to go through your significant order’s phone, doing so breaks the trust you have both built. If you feel your partner is hiding something from you, confront them with any questions you have. 2. Misinterpretation Might Cause Huge Damages      It is impossible to completely grasp the context of social media communication thus misinterpretation is easy especially when the opposite sex is involved.You might be caught up with anxiety trying to figure out whether your partner’s tone is flirtatious or just platonic. 3. It Turns Y...

 By Abdulkadir Rafiat          It is important to keep your eyes open to red flags as a toxic relationships can have serious and severe consequences. Here are signs that you need to get rid of toxic relationship people in your life: YOU GIVE, THEY TAKE       In a toxic relationship, one person only takes and never gives. For a successful relationship,it i s important to learn to establish balance. YOU ARE EXHAUSTED      An unhealthy relationship can be entirely exhausting. You might feel depleted and emotionally drained from arguing, walking on eggshells or hoping you do not encounter the toxic individual. LOW SELF-ESTEEM        Are you typically a confident individual in most situations, yet with that certain someone you often feel bad about yourself after you spend time together? If so, you need to get rid of toxic relationship people who give you low se...

 By Abdulkadir Rafiat     some long distance relationships do work but people often get tempted to cheat because if they do, they are sure their lovers will never find out. Plus, your girl often gets compliments from strange men and it makes her feel appreciated and tempted to taste another man.          Here are some ways a long distance relationship will try you, tempt you and eventually break you: 1 The only time your girl get really dressed up anymore is for Skype dates. She will dump you and go on a date with a man who is available. 2. Your thirsty friends will always pretend to drop in and check on your man then guess what? They will roll in the sheets while you are away. 3. There are always these friends lurking in the shadows pretending to give your girl a shoulder to lean on and stick to ride on. If you know, you know. 4. Poor communication drives your man or woman to another person's couch and we all know what happens...

  By Abdulkadir Rafiat       How can you tell if you and your partner are  doing great ? If like most happy couples, you avoid these dangerous things, you’re probably winning. 1. No comparison        Happy couples do not compare their relationship with any other. They understand that as long as they are satisfied with what goes on between them as a couple, they have no reason to worry about what others are doing. 2. They don’t whine to others        Many couples sabotage themselves by always complaining to a third party about their partner. If you have problems with your man, talk to him about it. Figure it out together. 3. They fight fair        Yes, happy couples fight, but they do so  effectively.  They don’t hurl insults or become destructive. They also know how to make up by ensuring they settle each fight as they come. 4. They have fun       To ...

By Abdulkadir Rafiat  Here’s what is more important than knowing how to compliment people; you need to know how to do it right! It is not enough to tell a pretty girl that she is pretty, she already knows that. You would need to do that and a whole lot more. Below are 5 easy steps on how to compliment a woman you like. 1. Don’t be creepy Never say something as blatantly creepy as “nice boobs” or “your jeans look to be stressing to hold in all of that ass!” That may sound to you as some nice way of telling her that you admire her physical features, but that is all in your head. In real life, no one wants to hear that. Don’t do it! 2. You’re beautiful always works Even though there is nothing wrong with telling a babe that she’s beautiful, you necessarily do not have to say the exact words. The whole point is to let her know that you think she good looking. So it does not matter that used gorgeous, sexy, pretty, breathtaking or some other word, just let he...

By Abdulkadir Rafiat  So if your guy is not ready for the level of commitment  you are seeking, here is what she will likely say: 1. My job is the most important right now A classic example of what most guys would quickly jump on when trying to avoid commitment to you. Many times, their reluctance to settle down with you for good actually has nothing to do with their jobs. If he says his job is more important right now, it doesn’t necessarily mean he cares about his job that much.it is frustrating to be with someone who does not see commitment in the horizon when you are already prepared for it. What is sure though, is that he does not care about you that much. If he really did, his job and you can exist together in his life. 2. Let’s not ruin what we have going In other words: I want to keep smashing and enjoying all the benefits you bring with you but I don’t ever want it to be more than this. No extra effort. No stepping up. No commitment. Whe...

    By Abdulkadir Rafiat  On the flipside, fake love is not something anyone would want to live with. Sadly, it is exactly what some people have in their relationships. If the relationship is based on anything different from a genuine willingness to see the other person flourish in every sense of the word, if it is based on something fleeting and temporary, then it is likely fake. To really know that the love in your relationship is fake, here are the signs you’ll see: 1. They’re emotionally distant In a relationship, fakers have a tendency to be non-communicative. They’ll provide little to no substance to what’s going on in their life. They’ll also make excuses why they “couldn’t” communicate especially when it is a little difficult to do so. The difference between them and someone with genuine love for you is the extra effort needed to reach out when it’s not so easy.They won't let you in no matter how hard you try. ...

  By Abdulkadir Rafiat        To have a bestie of the opposite sex, especially while in a relationship has always been a scandal-creating controversial issue.     And if its long history is anything to go by, it is unlikely that it will stop being a problem for lovers even in generations to come.While an opinion piece here advises against such relationship for the unneeded drama it often brings to relationships,  Tiwa Savage  and  Wizkid ’s bestie relationship has added another layer to the conversation; some extra context to what we already have and know.       Tiwa Savage and Wizkid say they are nothing but besties, in spite of all the scenes we’ve seen them in, the wild pool of opinion they’ve stirred and all the media circus they’ve created in recent memory - most especially with the release of the music video for wizkid's fever. There are elements of true friendship to ...