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By Abdulkadir Rafiat Forgiveness is the act of compassionately releasing the desire to punish someone or yourself for an offense. It’s a state of grace, nothing you can force or pretend. There are no short cuts. Mistakenly, some people , wanting to be “ spiritual ,” have prematurely tried to forgive after someone emotionally knifes them in the gut. First, you must feel  anger  before you can begin to forgive. I gradually guide patients to the large-heartedness of forgiving injuries either caused by others or self-inflicted. Revenge is the desire to get even when someone does you wrong. It’s natural to feel angry, to say “I’m not going to let that **** get away with this,” whatever “this” is. However, revenge reduces you to your worst self, puts you on the same level with those spiteful people we claim to abhor. Additionally, studies have shown that revenge increases  stress  and impairs  health  and immunity. Sure, if someone hits you with a stick, yo...

By Abdulkadir Rafiat The National Association of Nigerian Students on Saturday urged the leadership of the Academic Staff Union of Universities to go back to negotiations with the Federal Government. NANS was reacting to a statement reportedly issued by the ASUU where it threatened not to honour any further invitation for a meeting with the Federal Government. “There is a need for ASUU to continue its negotiations with the Federal Government to find a common ground to resolve issues that led to the union’s ongoing strike,’’ NANS National Public Relations Officer, Mr Bestman Okereafor, said. Okereafo, who made this known in a statement issued to the News Agency of Nigeria in Enugu, said: “We consider this decision as devilish and not in the best interest of Nigerian students. “We wonder how the lingering disputes will be resolved if meetings are boycotted. “We are calling on the leadership of ASUU to reverse its decision and consider returning to the negotiation tab...

By Abdulkadir Rafiat L earning to deal with disappointment is part of a fulfilling life. Disappointment is natural and normal, and everyone will experience it to some extent in their life because our expectations often don’t align with what actually happens. Sometimes life deals us a difficult hand, and events and trials arise that we have no control over. In other cases it is our own actions themselves that cause our trials. Regardless of the nature of our trials, difficulties and disappointments are a part of life’s journey and how we deal with them will largely determine the quality of our life.  It is very possible that our disappointment is due to the fact that we have an internal “rule” that is disempowering. An internal rule is a set of circumstances that must be present in order for us to feel happy or successful. For example, if we have a rule that says we need to be perfect, it is likely that we will spend a large amount of time feeling sad, disappointed and frus...

By Abdulkadir Rafiat She shared these hot new photos as she stepped out today writing; " For this gift of Life O’Lord I say Thank you ; Forgive us for when we don't thank you enough, for who you are, for all that you do, for all that you've given. Help us to set our eyes and our hearts on you afresh. Renew our spirits, fill us with your peace and joy. We love you and we need you, this day and every day. We give you praise and thanks, for You alone are worthy! Thank you Lord for the littlest things, Thank you for Good health, Whilst I take the Gift of sleeping & waking up for granted, this past few days has been an eye opener. Whilst we Outchea chasing after Vanity, Many are constantly asking God for just Good health. Thank you Lord for the Gift of Life in Good health �� Dear God; Thank you, I AM GRATEFUL �� . Now back to Drinking water & Minding my Business ���"