Why is life so unfair?

By Abdulkadir Rafiat

      As i grow and get mature, I learn so many lessons in life. Life is not fair. It never was, it is not and it will never be fair. People leave. Not everyone stays with you during your hardest times. You may be important to people but not all the time.

        Not everyone you really care about, cares about you in return. Life is full of temporary people who sometimes makes use of your emotion. Parents are the only ones who really care about you NO MATTER WHAT happens to you. Also the same is true with close friends. They really care for you. All other "friends", acquaintances may be curious about what happens in your life, but they don't really care.

       If you ever truly love someone, be prepared to get vulnerable and to get hurt. Love doesn't hurt, but the emotional attachment hurts. Sometimes their indifference hurts.  Immature people act indifferent. They feel staying away will help you move on, when in fact it emotionally destroys you. Immaturity breeds company.  People will judge you. They do not know what you have been through, they do not really know about you completely but they still judge you. They talk behind your back and back stab you. If they gossip about someone to you then they surely will gossip about you to others. Not everyone is a true friend.

       It hurts when the one you truly love moves away from you. But life has to move on and you stay away for you love that person truly and wish the best for them.  Everything takes time to nurture and build. True love, true friendships and so on. Good things take time. Failures happen and teach us more. Struggle teaches you more in life and gives you the much needed experience.

    At the time of misery, nobody will help you more than yourself.You will fail. Fail harder so that you will learn how not to fail again.People are going to hurt you. They are going to sting you emotionally when you get too much attached to them and it will hurt real bad.True love is not enough. Sometime you will get hurt more if you ever loved someone truly and if she/he doesn't realizes.

        People are going to disappoint you. Don't expect anything from them. You may be nice but they are going to hurt you. People will misunderstand you to be pesterer or torturer if you love someone truly. Not everyone knows the real you and you will get judged. It just defines who they are, not who you are. Whether you like it or not, people will talk behind you. Sometimes it would be the people whom you trusted the most.

         Lying is not always a mistake. Sometimes you lie not to hurt someone.  You'll be alone in the most difficult times of your life. These times will make you wise,mature and fearless. You'll be betrayed by your close loved ones, don't get surprised. Worst heart breaks come from them. Wish them well and move on. That defines your nature.

        Above all, learn to love unconditionally and forgive even those who hurt you. Forgive, but don’t forget the lessons learnt!