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By Abdulkadir Rafiat Dear Individual, It’s been over eleven years since you raped me, yet it often feels as if no time has passed at all. The memory of the weight of your body pinning mine down, the scent of your sickening sweet cologne, the rough sensation of your unshaven face rubbing my cheeks and neck raw as you slammed your hips into me…these are things I cannot forget. You see, when you raped me, you didn’t just violate me, you stole something I was not yet ready to give freely. You didn’t just take away my innocence, you forced your depravity on me, then accused me of being a poor lover because I was not “into it”. You laughed in my face when I told you to stop while pushing you away, and insisted that you knew I wanted you because I had “flirted” with you just hours before (newsflash: not every woman that looks your way is flirting with you, and if she were in fact flirting, that does not equal an open door to the most intimate part of her body). At the time, I was tr...

By Abdulkadir Rafiat Hi guys,         It's been a while here; I can not swim. I never learned it. I almost drowned once before. Now I can not go into the water without panic.  it is not even the water. I wash with it, too. these are the circumstances. if I have no ground under my feet and I'm in the cold water.

By Abdulkadir Rafiat  I am just curious as to what makes people consciously realise that they have fallen in love with a person  For me I dont really understand the concept of love, i can feel when I start have feelings for someone but I can snap out of it real easy  So i just wanna know whether I actually have ever fallen in "love" with a person or is it just that I can climb out of the well before I fall any deeper  I also have rooted this fact deep in my head that I might never find love. So whenever I feel for someone I just have to tell myself that they wont reciprocate the feeling ever.. maybe thats why i can snap out of it real easy  I am an average looking girl who has trust issues who has never had a serious  boyfriend because I never found anyone who loves me so well, worth my time & casual relationships is a thing I dont really consider well  Is it normal that I am like this?  And What makes you realize that you've fallen...

By Abdulkadir Rafiat Hey guys,          It's a new week and I hope it runs out well.   I was in a terrible relation. Very stressed out. I felt like I wanted to screw the whole town. But I want to hear from you guys.           Don't forget to slide into the comment section. 

By Abdulkadir Rafiat Hey guys,           It's a Blessed Sunday and I guess I'm  Just curious to see how common serious suicidal thoughts are and where I fit into the numbers.          Make it fun by sliding into the comment section.

By Abdulkadir Rafiat Hey guys,                How's the weekend going with you.                 Quick one,                 Do you wish you'll have a mate, children, dream job or better understanding of yourself and world?                    What ever it is, let's hear from you  in the comment section.             

By Abdulkadir Rafiat Dearest ..., Sometimes, there are simply no words that can adequately express the depth of a person's feelings that are plagued by regret, guilt and sadness for a wrong done. This is my predicament now for hurting you so badly when you trusted me so. A thousand "I'm sorry" I'm willing to say but I know it can't undo what has been done and it won't ease the pain in your heart. Instead, let me write this to let you know that I regretted my actions and cheating on you is certainly an unforgivable mistake. I totally deserve all the anger and resentment from you for what I have put you through. However, it also pains me to see you suffering as a result of my misbehavior. Guilt burns in my heart thinking of all the hurt that you must have felt because of my recklessness. Each time that I think of you, I get angry with myself because I can imagine all the bitter tears you must have shed when you learned of my indiscretion. I'...

By Abdulkadir Rafiat Hey guys,                 Instead of committing murder, I just visualize it in my head, it brings relief, it feels good knowing they are dead at the moment.           What do you think? ??? 

By Abdulkadir Rafiat         It's funny because I'm not all that anti-social, I'm actually quite good at talking with people and I do still enjoy social things from time to time.         It seems as if I'm usually put in the social scenarios only 20% of the time by my desire and design, most of the time it's just circumstance and I make the best of it because I'm a happy kind of girl. But when left to my own planning, I usually just choose to be alone. The thing is, I really enjoy being alone a lot, and I feel as though I definitely seek it out more than anyone I know. when being social, I'm more of a one on one kind of girl. Not always, but I mostly dread larger social get-togethers, holidays, parties, etc.. Sure I made some friends on trips and hung out with fellow travelers, but the majority of the time it was just me, myself, and I. I've grown a bit used to being a stranger in a strange land, meeting people enjoying time togeth...

By Abdulkadir Rafiat       Hey guys,    What is the most deepest opinion on something you can say? Doesn't have to be dark or anything private. It can be about life or anything really. Yes I know this isn't a "IIN" question.

By Abdulkadir Rafiat          So, when I say "messy head" I just mean that your thoughts are very disorganized.          Okay, I have some weird habit of connecting current things happening to past events, even if there are no obvious connections (most of the time, there isn't a connection at all).               For example, I could be sitting in class, and suddenly it'll feel like this memory from my babysitter's house, remembering that I'm standing by the window, looking out (mind you, I'd be in class, nowhere near the window). Does that make sense? I'll make connections between hanging out with friends to sitting at my cousin's house, connections between the movie Wall-E and a clown nose, connections between drinking coffee to highway signs.                It's hard for me to exist sometimes when I feel like I'm constantly being pulled into my ow...

By Abdulkadir Rafiat         So my best friend is with this guy, who encourages her to go out and have random hook ups! She will go to the bar and leave with another guy! It's not an open relationship at least Not on his part!         In my opinion he couldn't possibly really love her to not only allow but encourage this behavior.          Is it normal guys???? ?

By Abdulkadir Rafiat          I had a friend, he was there for me through a lot. I had a boyfriend who seemed to be off and on at the time and I was ignorant to my friend's feelings. Personally, I feel as if I regret not choosing him but now me and my boyfriend are stable and we're doing really well (I also don't know if I should apologize in respect of my boyfriend). I want to apologize to that friend, even though I know I technically don't owe him anything. I want to apologize to him, as he is seemingly the perfect guy, smart, kind, strong. We stopped contact for nearly a year now but the guilt still hurts me. I truly want to apologize but I don't know if it'd open closed wounds or make it seem like I'm just full of myself-Apologize for being ignorant of his feelings and using him as a crutch when I needed someone but not being there for him-. I really want to open our relationship up again but only as friends. I know that much is impossible.  ...

By Abdulkadir Rafiat        It's been a year to our relationship. Sometimes I feel like we're loosing the grip. First month he was so nice to me, he used to compliment my appearance.        Second month; Every time he used to directly or indirectly compare me with his female friends . I used to cry.. stupid, right? Very often he says he wants me to learn how to take care of myself.  I'M sure he has a long list of my flaws. "chubby girls are great" "just look at you.. not at all girly" I've been hearing this for quite some time now.          I've noticed him checking out other girls too. I've lost confidence in myself.. I really don't want to go anywhere with him, I'm kinda embarrassed of my appearance.                     What should I do? I don't wanna lose this guy either. Advise please!

By Abdulkadir Rafiat Let me explain to you With the Help Of An Example : A Rael Reltionship Is teh oen whre---- Thre is cmplete understnding and trsut betwen yuo and yuor partnre (whether your loved one, bestie, sister, brother or any other close person) Yuo aer sad becaus yuor frind is sad and yuo do crazy thngs to maek them laugh Now just look at this message Most of the spellings of this message are wrong But still you guys could read it perfectly If you want a true and real relationship just ignore the mistakes don't let your misunderstandings grow don't let your ego come in between (but that doesn't mean you should forget your self worth) But once the limit is crossed and every nerve of your body feels hurted Just walk away A writing for all my readers. 

By Abdulkadir Rafiat Hey Guys,               Wondering how I can make my breasts look bigger , without anyone knowing I’m stuffing. Drop your comments 😀😀😀😀

By Abdulkadir Rafiat You might need to look up "types of female body shapes" on google images to see what different types there are. Some examples include: Hourglass, pear, rectangle, diamond, apple etc.  I'm curious to see what guys like and what girls themselves like ...                 comment down below!

By Abdulkadir Rafiat Life is hard; we all know that. But why is it some chose to be bitter, but then others get better.  Is it because the people who got better had more support? Were they raised with better morals?  Or are people who get bitter after hardships just losers?

By Abdulkadir Rafiat Okay so there's this guy I Met for the first time  and since meeting him I just thought wow he's amazing, his personality made me fall for him right away. That night we exchanged contact details (Instagram) and the next time I saw him was the next day. Point is I really like this guy I've only met him twice. Now I don't know what to do, I've no clue when I'll see her again to ask her out and this girl is too much of a catch to just let go.   Help!! I need advice I can't get him out of my head. I tried texting him but that was like yesterday which is kinda odd, anyway advice is appreciated. Thank you .

By Abdulkadir Rafiat Well, I always feel sad about the past, like I will sit in the night and feel sad about past events from my life, like whenI felt joy but I will even feel sad about sad events, it's like I miss the sad and happy events and it make me feel really sad. Is it normal to always look back?     Your advice please 

By Abdulkadir Rafiat For me, I will say 2018 was certainly unpredictable. Promotions, new responsibilities, etc. This was good. On the other hand, personal struggles including the big fight to stay mentally healthy were amplified. I can’t complain though. Every year comes with its challenges. Even the really good years. Everything on my mind now is how to have a fabulous  2019. 1. Don’t Carry The Failures Of Last Year Forward I know it is hard to shake off things that did not work out. But give yourself the permission to open a new sheet. If possible, a new book. It is okay to fail but it is not ok to use that as a reason not to try again. 2. Don’t Make New Year Resolutions Something about the ‘r’ word sets us up for failure. Truth is, you are the same person on December 31st 2018 that you will be on 1st January 2019. Nothing really happens overnight. The sun will not set and rise with magical powers the next day. 3. Don’t Spend All Your Time On Social Medi...

By Abdulkadir Rafiat It's still the beginning of  a new year and If you really care about Growth, Progress & Upliftment in 2019, then below are list of DO’s (The things you should do) to achieve all your heart desires in the new year. 1. Leave This Country If you have the opportunity to leave this country, please do. Be a patriot from afar. Send dollars and pounds home. Don’t feel bad. 2. Create A Goal List (Don’t Do New Year Resolution) Rather than a list of resolutions, create a goal list (a less morbid version of a bucket list). I mean tangible and measurable new things. They could be places to go. Foods to try. It could be going back to school or even online certificate courses. You could learn how to code or even become an Excel expert. It could be a cooking or baking class. It does not matter how old you are. Whether you learn that new thing or not, you will still get old either ways. 3. Become An Expert At Something It could be in line with you...

By Abdulkadir Rafiat 1. *TYPHOID FEVER*:       Get unripe pawpaw, unripe pineapple, ginger, lime orange and Lipton tea. Cut into pieces, boil with fermented corn water for one hour. Take one glass cup 3 times daily for one week. The ailment will disappear. 2. *STOMACH ULCER*:         Get 7-8 unripe plantain, peel them, cut them to pieces and pound. Put everything inside a plastic container, fill it with one gallon of water. Allow it to ferment for three days. Take one cup 2 times a day for one week. The ailment will disappear. 3. *ASTHMA*:       Get some seeds of mango, cut it into pieces and keep under the sun to dry. Grind to powder. Put one spoon of the powder into a glass cup of water, stir it and drink. Once in a day for 3-4 weeks . 4. *RHEUMATISM / ARTHRITIS*:         Get 5 seeds of English pear (Avocado pear), cut into pieces and dry under the sun, grind to powder. Mix with a glass of honey to f...

By Abdulkadir Rafiat      I used to think that maturity was about age and physical development, how wrong I was. I have since found out that age is only but a number, below are 20 definitions of *MATURITY* 1.... *Maturity* is when you accept other people the way they are and their level of maturity. 2.... *Maturity* is when you understand that your ideas are not always the best. 3.... *Maturity* is when you learn to let go even if it pains. 4... *Maturity* is when you are able to drop expectations from a relationship and give for giving sake. 5.... *Maturity* is when you understand that whatever positive things you do, you do for your own peace. 6... *Maturity* is when you stop proving to the world how RIGHT OR SUPERIOR you are. 7.... *Maturity* is when you stop comparing yourself with others because life is not a competition. 8.... *Maturity* is when you understand that you can't and shouldn't always get what you want every time. 9.... *Maturity* is...

By Abdulkadir Rafiat      Sometimes ago Aliko Dangote, Femi Otedola, Jimoh Ibrahim, Mike Adenuga... were looking at Abiola, Nwanyawu, Igbinedion, Dantata as we are doing now. Sometimes ago Messi, Ronaldo, Ronaldinho were looking at Maradonna, Roberto Baggio, Romario, Jam Stam, Luther Mathaius as we are doing now. Sometimes ago Bill Gate, Warren Buffette, Carlos Helu... were looking at Rothschild, Rockefella, Henry Ford as we are doing now.      Sometimes ago GEJ, Late President Yaradua were looking at Tafawa Balewa, Muritala M, IBB as we are doing now.Sometimes ago Adeboye, Oyedepo, Areogun, Kumuyi... were looking at Ayo Babalola, Obadare, Idahosa, Kc Price... as we are doing now.Sometimes ago, Emeifile, Sanusi Lamido, Soludo were looking at Clement Isong, Vincent, O.Ahmed, M.Borno as we are doing now.      The only thing that speaks in the lives of these people and the only difference among them is TIME called TOMORROW. Your tomor...

By Abdulkadir Rafiat Dear you, I am sorry for hoping you will be with me I am sorry for thinking that growing old together as can be I am sorry yet that again for causing us in pain I am sorry that I will always love you, even past the end of time I am sorry that you are hurt by hurting me  I am sorry for messing up I am sorry for all those haunting memories I am sorry for all those lies I am sorry for all those hugs and kisses I am sorry for touching your lips with mine I am sorry to make you smile, maybe sometimes I am sorry to love your soul I am sorry that I am not always honest I am sorry for all those tears that I shed daily  I am sorry that I care I am sorry for being there I am sorry for this feeling that is killing me daily I am sorry for those fights that we had every night I am sorry for each and everything, The pain is unbearable  I need you, I am sorry for you I love you :( Fu*k, why I love you???? Yours sincerely, Me.

By Abdulkadir Rafiat Dear Society, Yes, I am someone who isn't virgin. Yes, I am someone who had sex with someone I loved before. Yes, I lost my virginity to someone who isn't in my life anymore. Yes, I'm not "PURE" according to your opinion. But my dear society, you know what... My middle finger salutes your opinion. My virginity doesn't decide my purity. My virginity is not a level to decide I am pure or not. Just because I had sex with someone I loved, it doesn't mean I can't be pure to someone else. The feelings need to be pure not my d*ck or vagi*a. ••••• So, what if I lost my virginity to someone who isn't in my life anymore? That doesn't mean I have to be labelled as someone who can sex with anyone. That doesn't mean I can't be loyal to someone I love again. That doesn't mean I am characterless and I'm someone who's easily available for sex. ••••• I can start a new future with someone. I can...

By Abdulkadir Rafiat An  Eagle  is the common name for many large  birds of prey  of the family  Accipitridae . Eagles belong to several groups of  genera , not all of which are closely related. Most of the 60 species of eagle are from Eurasia and Africa. [1]  Outside this area, just 14 species can be found—2 in North America, 9 in Central and South America, and 3 in Australia. 1. *Eagles fly Alone and at High Altitudes.* They don't fly with sparrows, ravens, and other small birds. *MEANING*; Stay away from narrow-minded people, those that bring you down. Eagle flies with Eagles. Keep good company. 2. *Eagles have an Accurate Vision.* They have the ability to focus on something as far as 5km away. No matter the obstacles, the eagle will not move his focus from the prey until he grabs it. *MEANING*; Have a vision and remain focused no matter what the obstacles and you will succeed. 3. *Eagles do not Eat Dead things. They Feed only...

By Abdulkadir Rafiat          A  New Year  is the  time  or day at which a new  calendar year  begins and the calendar's  year count  increments by one. So it's 2019 and here are few things everyone should try to adjust to:  *1. Pursue something*. Don't walk in the entire 365 days without having something particular in mind to achieve. Start a building project, buy a car, pay some school fees, start some job. Just do something!  *2. Walk with people wiser or stronger than you*. In 2019, surround yourself with people who will inspire you, who will make you feel you can do better, who will challenge you on.  *3.Check your dressing or appearance*. Don't put on 'anything' just because it covers your nakedness. Your appearance tells a lot about you. Iron your dress neatly. Don't wear dresses in the name of fashion or trend . Wear more decent but fitting dresses. This is the slogan: Simple but Classy. ...